Isn’t understanding better?
It’s astounding how similar the relationship you have with yourself is to the relationship you have with others.
With all people, with everything they do that wrongs you, you have two options: to go along with your default instinctual desire to be mad and sad or to understand why they did what they did.
One leads to turmoil, one leads to peace.
When you wrong you — by not getting off games soon enough, or failing to meet a new goal — you have two options: to go along with your default instinctual desire to be annoyed and sad at yourself — that is to say, feel guilty — or to understand why you did what you did.
Psychology is a superpower because it gives you such a rich intellectual vocabulary to view almost everything that happens, and to come to understand people and yourself so much faster.
If you want to love others and yourself, if you don’t have a means to understanding then it’s going to be more tempting to go with the instinctual reaction of anger.
Maybe it’s not a coincidence that the most loving person I know is also the most Professor-of-Social-Psychology person I know.